...is paved with good intentions. (You thought I was going dark there didn't you?!) So, lately I've covered children and marriage, so I'm moving on to friends today. I just finished reading the book, "The girls from Ames: A Story of a Forty-Year friendship." It was a quick read filled with funny anecdotes covering the pain, joy, and support of a group of 11 women who grew up together. It really got me thinking about my friendships and what friends mean to me. I truly believe that you have to be a good friend to have a good friend and I felt a sense of relief reading of how women struggle to maintain friendships in their late 20's early 30's. I am struggling to balance family life while still nurturing my friendships. I have the best of intentions of letting my friends now how special they are to me...but then I look up and the next month has come and gone. I wanted to call a friend (after I overheard someone calling her "grumpy all the time") to tell her how positive I think she is. Each time I picked up the phone to call her a child would cry, or need something so I put it off until I could give her my full attention. Good intention...bad follow through. Twice now I have baked things to take to friends with certain cravings for yummy fall foods. Carmel apple cider, anyone?! I have a friend with a fondness for Starbucks that would have loved this...or at least tasted it and pretended to like it! Treats during conferences...I should really have delivered these tasty morsels during conference week...oops, missed that. I also have 2 pregnant friends that have gifts that have been sitting on my counter for nearly 3 months now. It won't be long and I'll be delivering these "happy pregnancy" gifts to their newborn children. College friends...what happened to "wine club"? I've been thinking I definitely need to plan a get together with friends from college...it's been way too long. Why is it that I think of these things...but can't ever follow through on them. I'm a pretty crappy friend with the best of intentions. Too bad intentions don't count for anything. How do you balance friendship with homelife? Twenty/thirty-somethings, do you feel like your friendships are fading?
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someone busier than me just called a friend... ;-)
i can't get that darn quote out of my head- but it still isn't getting me off my butt to do something worthwhile :)
i struggle too. i am a self-professed lazy bone.
if a thought of a friend was as good as a phone call, our friendships would never cease. i think about my friends from high school and college all the time, but i could not tell you when i last talked to them (one being my maid of honor! gasp!!).
balance? hmm. i think social media is to blame (you'd think it should be banned for all the harm it has done!). when one click can let us know what is 'kind-of' going on in their life, or at least see their face- we are mostly satisfied. i really don't know if there can be a balance? wouldn't we go crazy if we were staying in contact with everyone while trying to run a house and hold a job? i think that is why friendships change as we change. it becomes easier to be friends with the people you're around most often... but don't forget some are silver and others gold-- those gold friendships, no matter how crazy life is, are thinking of you as well and wanting to call you... but always knowing that when the right time comes you haven't missed a beat.
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